Sunday, 22 April 2012
The installation of self confidence begins young. Teaching young girls about their value in society and this ability to become whatever they want to be. Society has come a long way in its fight for equal rights for women, pay grades, voting, work...we are no longer chained to a house. Girls need to be taught about self worth, to gain the confidence needed to face all the things thrown at them from a very young age.
You are strong, you are kind, you are important. A valuble quote for any woman. To believe in yourself and the value of your person eminates positive energy. I personally find believing in this message, very hard. While deep down i know that its true, my personal view of myself, blocks out what i should be seeing. This is no fault of anyone but myself. I have to work on this and its something only i can do. Im halfway there, admitting the problem. Wish me luck! Xo
Whilst it has been found to be untrue and unfair, it took away my drive, passion and ability to write exatly what im thinking. But im happy to say that im back...and im ready to write.
Over on my personal page, i have been undertaking the 365 Project (a photo a day for a year) to give people a little insight into me, my passions and my loves. Integrated into this is a personal project...im calling it "Secret #52" where I include a secret a week. Some are sad, some are funny, but mostly its things that live in the back of my mind and I feel the need to get out. Instead of flooding this blog with catch up photos and stories, i will incorporate Secret #52 within my general blogs.
So stay tuned, tell your friends and i look forward to sharing with you a revamped F.orgotten in Silence Xo
Saturday, 2 July 2011
I love gay men, gay women, I love gay people! I do, there is something about their confidence and personalities that I just adore. Im not talking about the fashion advice, or the insane gossipy chats, its the way that they accept you, for who you are. They don't judge, they just love, it really warms my heart.
I have a many homosexual friends and I wouldn't trade them for anything else in the world. But there seems to be a huge stigma about the way of life, people trying to prove that its a chemical imbalance in the brain, or a lifestyle choice that can be punished, or taught out of someone. I don't think this is the case at all and I think you just know if you like boys or girls, I don't think there is any funny business going on and if you like someone of the same sex, then that's okay. You shouldn't be punished for it.
In the society we live in its becoming more and more common and I believe with the new generation homosexuality is being accepted more freely. My problem is with the biggot bogan who have nothing better to do than gay bash. We are all people...seriously...what if tomorrow you woke up and the tables were turned, if heterosexuality was opposite the norm and this oppression was thrust onto you. It wouldn't really be too fun would it. I have had a couple of my mates bashed because they were dancing with some heros girlfeiend and they were threatened. As a matter of fact, one of my ex boyfriends was so threatened by one of my gay mates, he convinced himself that I was having sex with him. Isn't that the stupidest thing you have heard in your life? I couldn't possibly be hanging out with him because he was great to talk to and he made me laugh...nooo...its not possible to be a friend with the opposite sex for the pure intention of being friends! But I'm getting off topic...
I believe that same sex marriage should be legalized. Civil union = bullshit. Marriage is two people loving each other so much that they want to spend the rest of their lives together...fullstop....I don't remember EVER being told when I was a kid that it had to be a man and a woman...ever. It makes me so angry. Sexism, its real, and its ripe in our community. Its so bad that people live two lives, terrified of what their family and friends will think of their lifestyle, and that's sad. Who has ever been chastised for living and loving someone of the opposite sex?
Also, who's to say that two mums or two dads CANT be amazing parents? One of my lesbian friends just had a baby and she is a loving, warm and caring mother. Who is to say she wont be. Oh, and before you play the "every kid needs a father" card, what about all the men that run out on their baby mother before the child is born, or run away and hide so they don't have to pay child support,. This goes for mothers too, who are scared of the responsibility and aren't ready to grow up. The ones that dump the kids on the fathers so they can run out and party, drink and have sex with anyone that looks their way. Who are you to say that they will be better parents than a homosexual couple who are committed to each other and yearn to be a family.
Its wrong that these beautiful, gorgeous people are made to feel excluded from society and its lifestyle because of who they love. People who have sex with kids, and animals still walk freely in society but a man who kisses a man or a woman who kisses a woman is scorned for their lifestyle choice is chastised and beaten. Tell me where the fairness is in that, because I can't see it!
I'm sure you are proud of who you are and what you do. Embrace the people around you that might seem different, or extraverted, or lady like, or manly. They will add a dimension to your life you never knew existed. If you don't feel you can do that, then think about this. You love your family and would defend their honour to the ground, a parents love can't be measured. But, every single one of you, will have a homosexual in your family, whether it be a child, grandchild, parent, uncle, aunty, somewhere along the line there will be someone. The measure of strength will be how to deal with it and accept it. If it is with opened mind and love, your life will be enhanced in a way that you will never have known before. If you don't, you are just another biggot that will pass his hate gene to the next generation to oppress. You will be as bad as a racist!
I welcome you all with open arms, with no judgement, just love. I hope that you will do the same for me. Equality is the goal. Gay Pride, lets scream it from the rooftops, get the message out there, lets unite, in our fight, for freedom!!
Friday, 1 July 2011
Racism in Australia is beyond a joke. People in the town I live in are under the assumption that all aboriginal children are born with a goon bag in there hand and a centrelink cheque in their pocket. Its bullshit. I was always taught thay colour means nothing, black, white, caramel, we are all people ..were all humans. I'm not setting out to offend people, I just want to get my feelings out there.
From a young age I was taught that the colour of your skin doesn't matter, we are all just people and I believe that means that we should all have the same rights. Unfortunately this isn't always the case and I have found that as I have got older, its a select few that manage to bring down an entire people. We see it alot, especially around our area. Kids as young as 10 chroming aroung the corner, drinking, smoking and I know this isnt limited to colour as young caucasion children do it aswell, but as soon as someone sees someone of colour doing it, the race card is pulled out.
Mr Man can be a bit of a racist sometimes. He has a low tollerance for people that take advantage of the system or that use their colour as an excuse for their problems. I have found that in our group of friends its the same opinion with alot of them. Its really sad. I have friends of all races and I don't judge them for their colour. One of my best friends is Islander and I love her to peices. But when I hear her talk about how people will judge her because of what she's wearing or what they will think of her car, it makes me really sad. She's a good kid, she works for her money, and she deserves all the happiness in the world.
Reverse racism is really bad as well...fuck you whitey is often heard in our neighbourhood and the little kid next door once called me a Capitan Cook Cunt...because I told him to stop playing in our yard. He was no less than 8. But apparantly we deserve it. I'm of the opinon that we deffinately should of said sorry, as a country. We came here, raped their land, took their freedom away from them and introduced them to alcohol. Then when their dependancy gets so bad that they are having to make their towns "dry" to stop rape and abuse, we really have to have a look at the hand we had in it. I agree that as a child of the new generation I didn't personally have a hand in what happened, but my ancestors really fucked up...they did...and the stolen generation and the taking away of rights should never have happened.
In saying that though, I don't think anyone should be babyed in this country, the 4% homeloans are a joke...and the extra benefits you get because of the colour of your skin are just stupid. We are all capable of working, being responsible and an active member or society and I have no sympathy for any dole bludger that is capable of changing their situation and improving their life. It make me cranky that they cry poor and the race card when they have the ability to be something better.
I don't want to come across as a biggot, because that's not what I'm trying to do. I strongly belive education begins at home, with the parents. If your kids hear you say "aye ya black cunt" they are going to think its okay. If they here you say things about asians or indians they will always copy you, always. But its the same with chroming or drinking, you have to be a parent first. The system hasn't failed your kids, you have. Parenting is the same no matter what the colour, and you can see with the filthy mouths on some kids that its just not happening. They aren't going to school, they are constantly breaking the law...you can't help but wonder what the home life is like. Can't be all good can it.
If parenting fails then its up to the legal system to pick up the slack, and once the kid is in the system it is rare that anything changes, then the "fuck the police" mindset is passed on to their children, then their children. Its a cycle that needs to be ended for racism to disappear. But their will always be one side oppressing another side and I just wont ever go away.
In a perfect world the colour of your skin wouldn't matter and you would be judged on the person you are and your merit. We can all take little steps to get there. Don't judge anymore, before you say something bad about a person of the opposite race, think what it would be like if that was happening to you. I just want everyone to live together, without the slurs, without the assumption of bad, just, get along. Im not expecting anyone to feel the way I do. Just make one change in the way you approach situations, you will find it will really change your life, or start too anyway. You will feel better about it, your life will be better. I promise!
Sunday, 26 June 2011
Friday, 24 June 2011
So you would thing, as we got older, that the fear of incarceration would get stronger, especially seeing all the movies and documentaries about prison life. The word ‘Guilty’ replaces your grounded and sends you to a place that I know I would never want to go too! If